Does your partner avoid responsibility through passivity? Or hides anger and has a fear of being controlled, fear of confrontation, and an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive partner and you should do something about it. Your partner may have unresolved personal pain from his childhood. There are also other causes of having such personality disorder. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment.
There are symptoms such as:

  • disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
  • forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
  • giving sarcastic comments
  • blaming other people

Your partner probably have problems with adjusting and creating relationships with other people. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of time to understand someone with this kind of behavior. Don’t expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive, is having an unhealthy personality.
You know what you want, having a companion to share wonderful moments in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors provoked by his procrastinating behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering another difficult relationship? The two of you must help one another in finding out the cause of your conflicting situation. It is important for you to make your partner realize that there is a problem.
A passive aggressive person is self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he decides to change. Your partner must focus on every day problems as well as solutions. He must understand himself first before anything else. You must also help your partner control his passive aggressive actions.

If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you feel that you have done everything you can to save the relationship, and it seems that there is no significant change at all, consider leaving to find a better relationship. Or just simply accept that things will not change because that is the way he is, then try live a happy life anyway.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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