It is important that we grow up with the understanding that we don’t get everything we want out of life. Sometimes we need to really fight for our desires while sometimes we just have to find a different mode of dealing. We do not want regrets. We want to know that we stood up and we went after the things that mattered most to us, regardless of the outcome.

Once upon a time you could show up under their window with and pluck away at your Ibanez acoustic guitar. You would be heralded a romantic. Now you can be charged with trespassing and be slapped with a restraining order.

Of course, there is the alternative of gathering everyone from the drummer to the fastest fingers on the Ibanez electric guitar and throwing down your version of a romantic CD. Some people call that obsessed while others call it sweet. Before you toss the Ibanez acoustic electric guitar aside and start thinking of new ideas, try for something right in the middle.

If it’s not guitars then it could be artistic creation of any kind. In some cases it could be a single act of self humiliation to drive the point home that you just don’t want the love relationship to dwindle away and die. Emotion can be a powerful driving force and sometimes we just don’t think enough before we act.

What is the difference between acting big and acting so big we find ourselves in trouble? Usually it’s the messages we receive in return. When we are told to go away, we need to respect the space. A failed love needs space to heal, and when we show up unannounced or we call seven times per day we aren’t respecting the space. Think of your big act as your one and only act. You get one chance to express yourself and try to ask for that second chance.

It can be difficult for an emotionally charged individual to draw the line between what seems like reasonable intentions and what is construed as reasonable acts. When your relationship is failing you can feel desperate. When you start acting desperate it really shows, and it can translate into a rather unsettling need for contact.

A simple romantic gesture and the ability to show personal restraint is a much better quality than the ability to create devotional acts all over the place. You certainly have the right to ask once for another chance at love, but once the door closes, you need to back away.

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