Many of us transfer over emotional issues from past relationships, or even childhood events and traumas. The intense feelings from these past experiences can be a real factor in our capability to create and sustain a long-lasting loving relationship. This was absolutely true in my case, and I wasn’t able to free myself from previous emotional rackets until I acquired assistance from a Life Coach. The beginning step is to discover truly what recurrence you have in play that is preventing you from truly living and then clear it out.
Pat from Washington DC truly desires to share her life with a love life partner but is worried about being financially stable before attracting her ideal relationship.
I truly understand your concern and you’re not the only one feeling this way. That is a very understandable feeling for men and women. However, if every outside factor needed to be perfect prior to doing something in life, we’d be sunken in quicksand waist-deep for the rest of our lives, wouldn’t we? The Law of Attraction just does not function that way. This means your life experience does not have to be that way for you either.
Susan from North Carolina contacted me because she is afraid that she will never attract another spouse because she is convinced no one wants to walk into a ready-made family. If this rings true for you or a person you know, you could believe that, but it is just not so. I know of women who have toddlers, teenagers, and everything in between and they have still acquired a man who adores them and their children. He’s somewhere. If you contain the want, you have the capability to attract this amazing love into your life experience.
“I don’t want to be hurt again, but I really want to be with my soul mate. How can I feel more confident about love”?
You have two options to go here. 1) You can wait until you’ve had enough time in between the pain in your previous relationship or 2) begin healing and releasing the past. Since you desire to reach your soul mate, then I would do the work in releasing. It is faster and easier than you would think. Acquiring help from a certified relationship life coach can make your path smoother.
“I often tend to create the one who is emotionally unavailable. What should I do to change that”? This is a question that came from one of my clients. Coincidentally, that was the main complaint I recurred from my long history of failed relationships. They were either emotionally unavailable, lived far away or was travelling a great deal.
If you have attempted repeating positive realizations, messing with vision boards and other tools to assist get you in the attraction mode and they haven’t been effective, there could be a couple reasons. Affirmations and Vision Boards are utilities you can use when you want help getting into that feeling area of what it’s like to have your want manifested. If you are ineffectively facilitating these tools and not truly seeing that feeling place, then you’re just doing a repetitive action and will not likely get a lot of success. If you’re realizing that emotional area and persistently not getting results, then chances are you’ve got more resistance than you realize. I was at one point in the same situation. I did not understand what was in the way. I had to get life coaching that created all of the difference.
Do you sometimes question if you are with the ‘right’ one? How would you truly know for sure? This is a question I get asked when the relationship has several problems. The problem could simply be you are experiencing lots of mixed signals, or it takes lots of grueling work to have the relationshiop go well. Don’t get me wrong, a relationship does take work, but they don’t need to be hard work. Communication is fairly simple. You should feel free to voice what is on your mind. When situations become hairy, and they will, you need the courage and presence of mind to smoothe the situation over later on by taking responsibility for your actions or words.
Have you ever wondered if you are with the ‘right’ one? How would you truly know for sure? This is a question people ask me when a person’s relationship has many ups and downs. The problem could simply be you’re experiencing lots of stop and go signs, or it may take a lot of grueling effort to have the relationshiop run smoothly. Don’t get me wrong, a relationship does take effort, but they do not need to be hard work. Communication is fairly easy. You can feel free to say what is on your mind. When situations become intense, and they will, you have the courage and peace of mind to smoothe things over later on by taking responsibility for your actions or words.
A lot of us carry over trust problems from previous relationships, or sometimes childhood problems and traumas. The intense feelings from these past experiences can be a real player in our ability to attract and keep a lasting loving relationship. That was unfortunately true in my case, and I wasn’t capable of freeing myself from past emotional experiences until I acquired help from a Life Coach. The beginning step is to discover truly what recurrence you have in play that’s preventing you from truly living and then clear it out.
You have ended a non-functioning relationship that does not fit you anymore. It was difficult to stop the situation, because it was not horrible, although your heart wished to be completely fulfilled in love. Currently you have found yourself being lonely and have a hard time closing the door completely on that difficult relationship. Does this ring true for yourself?
You begin to question yourself, wondering if the situation was really that bad.
