Are there ways I can help save my marriage? You get married and settle comfortably in. All seems to be going smoothly. And suddenly you side-swipped and discover things aren’t nearly as rosey as you thought. Let’s get cracking and see if we can find some valuable tips to help save your marriage.

1) Listen, listen some more, and listen again. We often get so caught up in getting our version of events expressed, we forget this one simple thing. You love them, right? You have made promises to one another. Keep those promises. Listen to them and see if you can make their life better.

2) Do something especially for them. This doesn’t have to be a big deal. Breakfast in bed. Without them even asking, run an errand for them. Leave a short note. Perhaps, “I am aware it has not been great lately. But, I’ll be thinking of you today. Can’t wait until I see you again.” They will melt, I tell you.

3) Don’t play the blame game. This is really a huge waste of your time. Move beyond using the guilt game to get what you want. If you put an end to it, maybe they will as well. Be  the leader. Show your partner a better path.

4) Do something the two of you have never done before. This doesn’t have to be huge deal either. Go to a restaurant you’ve never been to before. Go somewhere for the weekend, just the two of you. You make all the plans so they don’t have to do a thing. Get out of the rut and put some sparkle into your relationship. You want to save your marriage, right? It’s going to take a little creativity.

5) Let loose of the need to control. Everyone does this. We all want to be safe and nothing feels better than control, which can lead to dominating your partner. Doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun though. Let loose of the reins a little, laugh more easily and step a little lighter. It will make you happier all the way around.

There are hundreds of thing you do to save your marriage, even when you are surviving infidelity. Don’t get caught in the same tired patterns. Be open, spontaneous and creative. Look inside and discover different paths to express your heart. Dare to be different. Don’t be afraid to express your emotions. You are the only one who can make it different.

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