It’s hard when mulling over lost loves to not think of Alfred Tennyson’s line “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. When I lost love, I felt the whole earth had collapsed around me.   I’m sharing my story in order to help you if you too have lost the love of your life.

You may need to consider that every relationship is bound to go downhill after a time.   Relationships when you’re really young, hardly last more than four days, as you get older and wiser, they tend to last longer.   Some relationships go wrong after a certain period, there’s not much you can do about it. Most of us are bound to have that one great love during the course of our lives. You’ll realize that the other relationships will start to fade into the background, hence the reason for my discussing lost love and the natural process behind it.

In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our relationship.  Her lease was about to end, and she wanted to move into my apartment.   As we were spending most of our time there anyway, it made sense from a financial angle.

I guess owning your own pad is really great. But when you have to share it with someone, even with your girl, it can go wrong really fast, end result, I lost her for good.  Well, since I was not that keen on commitments, lets just say that the whole scene played out like it was scripted.

I decided to take part in my friend’s bachelor party and before you know it, it went all bad. Yeah, I know I should have handled it better. I was really hammered at the party, and news of my so-called antics made its way back to my girlfriend and as a result, got dumped. I guess that one night was the last straw as far as she was concerned.

But, when I think back on what really happened, the events of the bachelor party were really a reaction to our discussion of more commitment. But on recalling the events, I guess the breakup was already on the cards, thanks to my lack of commitment. I seriously don’t think I would have behaved the way I did if I really wanted her to move in.  I lost love because I wasn’t ready for the direction it was taking. 

All being said, I am glad that I was in a relationship with my ex, she may not have been my one real love or my soul mate. While she may not have been my soul mate, I really enjoyed spending time with her. I guess a part of me loves her still, but that being said, I really could not see myself spending the rest of my life with her.

Once she decided to break things up with me, I knew that it was the end. After everything has been said and done, I went through the process of mourning and trying to figure out what went wrong and where. I knew that I had wounded her deeply but did not want to lose touch with her totally.

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I guess what I wanted was for things to continue on the way they were.  But, every relationship has to grow or die. I was not willing to take the extra step and given the circumstances, the relationship had to die out. In a manner of speaking, we had reached the end of the road as a couple and I ended up losing my love, that was it.

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