It doesn’t matter whose fault it is or how far into the legal process your case happens to be, there are ways to stop divorce if you are having reservations about breaking up with your spouse. Taking some key steps, keeping the right attitude, and having a bit of good luck, you can be successful in restoring your relationship, and even improving it.
Do some soul searching on your motives for wanting to stop divorce, before getting started on a quest to make it happen. Look at the marriage and really think about why it crumbled. Be sure that you are trying to save the marriage for good reasons. In addition, be sure that your marriage is worth saving, because not every union is save-able or worth saving.
There are some steps you will want to take if you decide you want to move forward and take action to stop divorce:
Step 1 – Reach Out To Your Spouse
Your odds of success are far greater by reaching out to your spouse and opening up communications directly between the two of you, then they are by simply trying to stop divorce by legally contesting it. Declare your desire to stop the process and make an attempt to work things out. Try to get this opportunity to at least discuss the possibility, even though you should be aware that your spouse may not be willing to do so.
Step 2 – State Your Case
If you do get the opportunity to speak with your spouse, be prepared to state your reasons for reconciling clearly, concisely, and calmly. Your spouse will need to hear why you want to stop divorce and work things out, what you believe needs to be done to fix issues in your marriage and what steps you are willing to take.
Step 3 – Listen To Your Spouse
Pay close attention to what your spouse contributes to this conversation. Your partner could give you some ideas for improving the situation, whether or not he or she responds favourably to the thought of getting back together.
Step 4 – Evaluate What Has Been Said
After you have had the opportunity to discuss your desire to stop divorce, reconsider your intent to reconcile based on the reaction you received from your spouse. You may have gained valuable information about what needs to be done to set things right. If you spouse has suggested specific actions, are you willing to take them? You might have to re-think going after reconcilement if you learned that your spouse has entered another relationship or is committed to going on with the divorce. It is good to “never say never”, but remember that you are worthy of a chance for a new beginning and an opportunity to be in a happy and healthy relationship at some point in the future.
Step 5 – Take Positive Action
If you and your spouse have agreed to work together to stop divorce and rebuild your relationship to be stronger and better, it’s time to take action in a positive manner. Work together on the issues you’ve discussed and seek counselling, if it’s appropriate. Remember that it can require time, patience and a good bit of work to fix a marriage that was so broken it was on its way through divorce proceedings. It is likely there will be many ups and downs along the way. Make an effort to keep optimistic and persevere toward the main objective: a marriage that is fulfilling and healthy for each marital partner.
Now, if your spouse doesn’t agree to stop divorce, you can still take positive action to build a better future for yourself. Make an effort to gain strength from the lessons you’ve learned, build your self-esteem, and remain positive. A new and better relationship that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling than the last may very well be in your future. In many cases, it is not possible to stop divorce and create a better relationship. When divorce can’t be stopped, you can find huge benefit from really looking at why and how the relationship failed and what you can do to ensure your future relationships are more loving and fulfilling in the future.
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