Are you wondering why you are living a miserable life and not the life that you dreamed of?

If the answer for this is pointing towards your partner’s behavior, then you need to have a clear view of what you want from your relationship.

In this article, you would begin to think of ways you can defend yourself from passive aggression. If you want to defend yourself from being angry or guilty, you must find out what causes your partner’s behavior.

Dealing with your partner’s passive aggressive behavior is very frustrating. If you do not do anything about the problem, it can lead to many serious problems. Tolerating a passive aggressive behavior could create a pettern where you and your partner avoid problems rather that dealing with them.

 

You can combat this kind of behavior by recognizing it. It will always be YOU who will suffer everything. You should be able to STOP that wrecker behavior!

If your partner complains about anything and everything, does not keep promises, blames you for their own problems and avoids confrontation, then your partner could be a potential wrecker in your loving relationship.

At first glance, your partner may appear quite friendly but at some point, you will be challenged negatively by your partner’s inconsistent behavioral pattern. Your partner with this kind of behavior can be inconsistent and ambiguous. He often expects you to read his mind and meet all his needs. Silence becomes a tool of escape if he proves his inability to live up to his obligations or responsibilities. He puts blame on you if anything does not go his way. In the end, you will be the one to face his problems, making you feel frustrated, confused, offended, and depressed.

 

Now, you will wonder HOW to deal with this behavior.

You must keep in mind that this is NOT your fault. It really has nothing to do with you if your partner cannot deal with his own issues in life. It is not your obligation to fix your partner’s problem. You would be wasting your time feeling guilty over something and this will not solve the problem easily. You cannot get your needs met and you become a martyr-victim who will suffer emotionally, and that will lead you to your own destruction. Do not make yourself miserable!

 

You have to make a deal with your partner. Be direct about how you feel by bringing up the problems and explain to your partner how would you like him to respond to this. Communication is important becuase this will help the both of you to understand your concerns. Communication is the key to help you both grow as a couple. To help you understand eachother deeply, you must be able to talk about your fears openly.

 

Fair fighting can work in your situation. Try to figure out his patterns and confront him with this destructive tendencies. In the end, it will still be YOU who gets affected if you protect your partner. Do not accept when he make excuses for himself and constantly remind him of the possible consequences if he allows himself to be eaten by his personal demons. Let your significant Other make solid decisions that he can follow.

 

If there is an attempt to control you through anger, like sarcasm or irritability, you must make him realize that his anger is a result of his fears. Find out the reasons of his anger. Silent treatment will never be a good way to solve problems bcause it is going to cause further distance to the both of you.

Remember: If a relationship which do not allow straight talk, cooperation and expression, it can become destructive. When things do not improve, then it is time for you to find help from someone who understands this behavior. If things are not workable, then it is time for you to take a good look at your need to live with conflict. Move on with your life.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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