That’s the big one, in terms of questions. You must be totally objective, even though it is really an emotionally subjective matter. Perhaps you feel that your ex seems a little more interested than before. Or you have the impression that more time is being spent with you by your ex. Perhaps, there are more requests to do little things together.

If these things are happening, it can be a good sign. Make sure they are really happening, and it is not a projection of what you want to be happening. Now is the perfect time for being a little hard to reach, or playfully hard to get. You ex will respond better to this kind of thing. Jumping back in too easily may have the opposite effect and push the person away all over again. It is perhaps the playing hard to get that your ex is responding to anyway. Now be careful here. There is a little strategy involved, but if you are trying to control someone and force them to do something, then you are not worth getting back with. Do not forget that you are dealing with a person who you love and care about. Never treat anybody a way you would not like if it were done to you.

It is only natural after a break-up to wonder what might have been. Missing somebody is a perfectly normal emotion. Old memories are flooding your mind, the more so the longer the relationship. It is also perfectly normal to think thoughts about getting back together. If you are having those thoughts, then it is safe to assume that your ex is having similar thoughts. Those thoughts do not necessarily mean it is a good idea to try to get back together. This is another reason why taking it slowly and playing a little hard to get is a good idea.

Common as well is attempting to get back at an ex, because of the hurt they caused you. The game of pretending to get back together is sometimes played, so that the person can this time drive the break-up, if they were not the one to drive it last time. What is happening here is an effort to recover some self esteem and it amounts to pure manipulation. Revenge is never a good thing, and you need to watch out for it. And do not try to play that game with your ex either. You have already caused each other enough pain.

Often, it can be just because they have nothing better to do that an ex continues to hang out with you. They are in limbo, waiting for something better to come along. Sometimes they are simply looking for attention, and some self-validation that they still have appeal.

That is certainly not to say that nobody wants to get back together. Getting back together will only work if it is truly what both people want. Additionally, it is much hard work. All I am saying is that it is important to take it slowly, so that you can fully understand the motivation of your ex, and so you can give them time to understand your motivation.

Total honesty is absolutely called for. Be true to yourself and to your ex also. You must only try to reunite if it is for the right reasons. And take the time to let your ex prove to you that it is what they really want as well, and for the right reasons. If not, all you are doing is causing more hurt. I am certain of that, the only thing I cannot predict is the timing.

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