Not all marriages are built from the same cloth, and therefore fall apart for different reasons. Usually there are a myriad of reasons why a breakdown of a particular marriage occurs. The fact that divorce is so prevalent is very unfortunate, and it continues to become even more common as time goes on. Because the modern day lifestyle places so much demand and stress on individuals, marriages are more susceptible to divorce now more than ever. With increased expenses and standard of living, both the partners need to work, which adds to the stressful conditions.
The situation of divorce is very difficult for people, however it is much more complex for the children of divorced parents. The views a young child has of the world often times are a reflection of what their parents have taught them, and the way two parents treat one another has a great impact long term on their children. There may be many reasons for two married people to end a relationship, but their innocent children go through painful ordeals. The divorce of parents conveys to children that there is no secure, stable and loving place.
Children are generally a hot topic of discussion in divorce cases, but they are not usually able to understand why their parents aren’t able to get along. Children of all ages are impacted by divorce, and while infants are oblivious to what’s happening, they are still able to sense when their parents are having problems. The tension can be felt, and this can cause them to feel more insecure and irritable. If old enough, they will begin to look other places to get approval, and this could mean opting for alcohol, drugs, or even giving sexual favors to peers.
Adolescents get into depression, and often take refuge in drugs or alcohol. Statistics show that of all the children with divorced parents, over 60% of them suffer from issues psychologically such as depression, anxiety, sadness, or moodiness. 56% of such children are not able to cope in their studies and show poor results, and 43% show the signs of aggression in their behavior towards their parents. When these children grow up, they have difficulties getting along with peers, siblings and their own parents.
Due to absence of their father, girls are not able to receive the love and care by the opposite sex, which could make them unable to cope with the opposite sex or get into healthy relationship with them. Most adults have difficulty with change, and children are fearful of either joining another family or living with a step-parent and their children. One of the greatest effects divorce has on children is that they begin to fear that their primary caretaker, whether it be Mom or Dad, will eventually leave them too. In order for a child to grow and mature as they should, the love and care of their parents is critical.
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