What is the ultimate relationship I hear you ask, some would say Friends with Benefits is! Courtship, who needs courtship when you have a Friends with Benefits relationship, just enjoy the sex. In reality, things can get pretty complicated in this sort of relationship though, simply because of the feelings that are automatically stirred up when two people get it on. The feelings that are stirred up during any relationship and particular this type can be difficult to manage and could cause some major problems.
To avoid any tricky situations, follow these ‘friends with benefits rules’ to the letter!
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Rule 1: Just Sex, No Jealousy
Treat her no different than any other friend, male or female, until the benefits are abound. It is likely that if she is happy with this type of partnership she is only interested sexually make sure you do not think it is more. You are only helping each other to relieve some sexual tension; and if either of you starts to get romantic feelings you need to reassess your situation right away. If feelings start to develop, you will need to discuss these otherwise one of you will end up getting hurt. You could be surprised that you both may have developed feelings and you have the potential to move into a proper relationship, perhaps without the courtship. On the other side though, it could be that you have developed feelings when there is no change for her to change. The bottom line is that you’ve got no right to feel jealous of your ‘friends with benefits’ being with other people unless you let them know exactly how you feel.
Summary of Rule is: If things change or you want things to change discuss it with her.
Rule 2: Wear it or Wear the Consequence
Always, always, always. You need to protect yourself against the basic’s, pregnancy – as this is your problem too and STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Protection is an essential requirement for this arrangement, she will respect you more for it.
Rule 3: Remember No is OK
It really is. Even if your friend needs some attention don’t feel bad if you need to turn them down. If you are strong enough to identify that you don’t want sex will probably work in your favour as she is likely to want you more. In showing that you are not just into sex you are displaying that you are really friends first, which will be very appealing for her.
Rule 4: Balance
Balance is the key, make sure she is not taking you away from the rest of your life! The sex may be great but mates are essential in the long run, don’t let the fun take over your time. Living your life is essential, don’t let sex, put that at risk, it isn’t worth it. Don’t lose track of the outside world.
Rule 5: Only when you’re Single!
So what is the most import thing about friends with benefit rules? When single, you can have fun with any women you want to. If you get into a “relationship” you can’t! It is essential that the benefit’s end if either of you get into a relationship, however the friendship can continue.
Most rules are made to be broken, but you need to be careful in a friends with benefits relationship. So long as you can keep your life in order and practice safe sex, there’s no reason not to take advantage of a fantastic situation.
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